But does your way of life ever make your boyfriend feel unnecessary or unwanted?
Every guy wants to date a girl who’s in control of her life.
And no guy likes a girl who’s too clingy or needy all the time!
But sometimes, your independent streak could make your guy feel
undesired, or even make him feel like he’s unwanted baggage in your
life.
And if that ever happens, that’s a sure sign that things may not remain so smooth in your relationship.
How to make your guy feel needed and wanted
A guy needs to feel desired in a relationship.
When he feels like he’s wanted and needed, he feels good about himself and the relationship.
He assumes he plays an important part in your life, and that makes
him try harder to be a nicer boyfriend because he believes his behavior
towards you has an impact on your life.
Dramatically put, your guy wants to believe that your life would be ruined if he didn’t exist in it.
Now, of course, that’s being overly dramatic, but I hope you get what I mean!
Why men love feeling needed
A man wants to feel like a man. And he feels like a man when he’s
needed and desired by a special someone, you. It’s in his evolutionary
genes, he loves the role of being a protector. And he feels good about
himself when he sees himself as the provider of your happiness and
security.
But if you ever make him feel like an unnecessary appendage in your
life, chances are, he’ll subconsciously start searching for someone who
needs him and wants him badly in their life!
15 sweet things you can do to make him feel needed and wanted
It’s not hard to make a man feel needed and wanted. And almost always, it’s the little things that have the biggest impact.
Just keep these 15 things you can do for him in mind, and as long
as you use these tips to display your need for him, you’d leave him
beaming with pride and happiness, all because you made him feel more
like a real man!
#1 Don’t reject him. Never reject his effort to make you
happy. If your boyfriend sneaks up on you from behind to hug you, or if
he messes the kitchen up just a little while preparing breakfast for
you, don’t rebuke him for that. He’ll feel stupid for trying to do
something nice for you, and he’ll hate you for it.
#2 Let him know you respect him. To your guy, your respect
and what you think of him plays a big part in how he feels about
himself. If you think he’s worthless, or not capable of doing something,
it’ll hit him harder than his biggest critics.
#3 Appreciate him. Appreciate the little things he does,
even if he doesn’t expect acknowledgement for it. If he fills a glass of
water for you, or does your laundry, don’t just take it for granted
even if it’s just a regular chore. Thank him for it. You’ll notice him
smiling to himself when he thinks you’ve walked away!
#4 Show him that you love him. Tell your boyfriend or
husband that you love him often. Even if saying those words seem
overrated, it always feels good to hear it. And don’t just stop with
words, show your love for him through your gestures too.
#5 Ask him for help. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in
front of him. As strong and capable as you are, let your guard down in
front of him and let him see your vulnerable and soft side. Talk to him
about things that trouble you, and make him realize just how much you
need his support too.
#6 Get possessive. You may trust your boyfriend completely.
But every now and then, show off your possessiveness, especially when
he’s going to meet a pretty girl at work or an old friend. Displaying
your possessiveness may make him smile or laugh, but deep inside, it’ll
make him see that you’re still scared of losing him, which shows just
how much you want him in your life.
#7 Make up without keeping count. Take the initiative to
apologize first to your man now and then. In love, it doesn’t matter who
started a fight or who ends it, just as long as both of you feel closer
after the fight.
Of course, you shouldn’t be a doormat who accepts faults each time
both of you fight. But now and then, let him see that you love him
enough to swallow your pride and make up with him even if it’s his
fault.
#8 Let him see that you miss him. You do miss your guy when
he isn’t around, don’t you? Tell him just how much you miss him and how
eagerly you’re waiting to see him again. You can even text him something
cute to make him smile.
#9 He’s a good boyfriend. If you really like your man and
see him as a great partner, tell him about it. Guys feel great when
they’re complimented about how good a boyfriend they are. And he’ll try
harder to be an even nicer guy and win more praise!
#10 Thank him. Thank your boyfriend and give him an
appreciative kiss when he does something for you, even if it’s as simple
as getting you your cell phone. When you’re in a relationship, it’s
easy to overlook the little gestures and take them for granted. Always
be appreciative of all the things he does for you.
#11 Consult him. Always consult him and take important
decisions together. You may have made up your mind already, but take the
time to discuss it with your man and ask him for his point of view. And
if it does differ from yours, try to understand why he doesn’t concur
with you, and explain your reasons to him. By doing that, he’d realize
that his opinions matter to you and you take them pretty seriously.
#12 Don’t boss over him. Don’t get bossy or behave like he’s
the one who needs you and you don’t need him back. You may assume that
displaying your independence to him would show that you can live your
life without him. But it may backfire against you and drive him further
away!
#13 Show your affection. Reach for his hands while walking
down a street. Wink at him as he talks to one of his friends. Cuddle him
up or run your fingers through his hair when he acts cute. He may
pretend to hate it, but deep inside, he actually loves it!
#14 Share your secrets. When a girl trusts a guy enough to
share her innermost feelings, it subconsciously reveals to him just how
important he is to her and how special he is in her life. Talk about
your secrets with your boyfriend, and he’ll come closer to you!
#15 Ask him for advice. If you want to make your guy feel
needed and wanted, just ask him for advice. It’s as simple as that!
Asking him for advice shows your man that you respect him and value him
enough to do something based on his judgment and opinion. And he can’t
get a bigger boost than that. He’ll swell up with happiness, and he’ll
feel really good about himself within minutes!
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